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5 things my Mum was right about

September 4, 2014

As it’s my Mum’s Birthday today (Happy Birthday Mum) I thought I’d write a little Mummy related Blog Post. They say ‘Mum knows best’ so I decided that as I’m a responsible adult now it’s about time I admit that my Mum has been right about quite a few things (not everything Mum, I still think Navy blue is dull colour on me). In honor of her special day, and also to share a few life lessons with you guys, I’ve selected five things – probably the five most important things – that my Mum was completely right about:

You’ll get over him
Every time I blubbered away over a boy, my Mum was there giving me a cuddle telling me ‘time is a healer, you’ll get over him’. And every time I would argue back that she didn’t know what she was talking about, she didn’t understand, my heart was broken, my life was over, I can’t live without him (yes, I was a tad dramatic). But my Mum would still insist that I would get over him. She promised. And although sometimes it was a rough road, every road eventually came to a close and she was right, I always got over the boy in the end.

Overdrafts are Bad News
My parents have always tried to teach me the value of money and how to look after my finances, and when it came to credit my Mum warned me off it like it was the plague. I did a very good job of listening to her, that was until I spread my wings and fled the nest and was offered credit cards and overdrafts left right and centre. I ignored my Mums words and got myself into a little pile of debt. She was right, taking money that wasn’t mine was never going to end well, especially when I didn’t have a stable job to manage it all. Fortunately teaching me to budget at a young age paid off and once I put my mind to it I was able to pay my debts off by myself, and quicker than I thought too. But if only I’d listened in the first place, I wouldn’t have had to pay anything at all.

Ignore the Haters 
Okay, so back in the 90’s it’s unlikely my Mum would have used this exact phrase, but the message was still the same. Growing up my Mum always told me to ignore anyone who called me names and anyone who was to mean to me. This can of course be difficult and no-one wants to seem weak, but whilst growing up and becoming an adult this advice has helped. My Mum pointed out many times (even very recently, when some old ‘friends’ were unexpectedly mean to me at 28 years old!) nastiness and bullying is a form of Jealousy, and in some cases insecurity, so retaliation is not the best way to deal with it. Obviously severe bullying is a serious issue, but if someone wants to call me a name or badmouth me, go ahead, because why would I focus on the ones who hate me, when so many more love me?

A de-cluttered home is a de-cluttered life
My Mum used to nag me constantly about keeping my room tidy and cleaning up after myself, she would tell me that it was important I had clean and tidy surroundings. I just couldn’t understand what the big deal was, as a child mess didn’t bother me. Yet in recent years I have started to notice a difference; if my flat is a mess, so am I! Living in filth makes me lazy, I end up late for work because I can never find anything, I never have anything clean to wear if it’s thrown all over the place, and mess makes me feel completely unmotivated. So these days I tidy A LOT, I do a big clean every weekend and spend ten minutes most nights doing a sweep around the flat. I have to admit my Mum was right (even though the child in me just scowled) waking up and coming home to a clean home makes my mornings stress free and my evenings relaxed.

Manners go a long way
My Mum was very strict when it came to Manners ‘Always say Please and Thank You’ she would say, and when I have children I will enforce this same important rule. Having these words burned into my daily vocabulary certainly paid off. Politeness and gratitude not only make a good impression and reflect well on your parents and family, but sometimes just a simple ‘Thank you’ and a little appreciation can really make someone’s day. And don’t forget, what goes around comes around!

What important life lessons has your mum taught you? Did she ever tell you any of the above? I’d love to know.

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  • I definitely agree with being careful with your money. My parents have always been quite stingy on things they didn’t necessarily need. At uni i generally had part time jobs to pay for any expenses outside of accommodation and tuition costs which definitely helped me stay out of my overdraft! So many of my friends went deep into their overdrafts and really regret it now.

    Also yes and yes to de-cluttered home and manners going a long way!

    Lizzy at Nomad Notebook

  • Yes, exactly Lizzy! I worked through uni too. All my student loans went on rent which meant I needed to fund my own social life etc, so I always worked. But in my second year I guess I got sucked into the offer of an overdraft. I think it was wrong and unfair of the banks to offer these as well as credit cards to students who they know aren’t in work. But I was equally wrong for taking them out too. Fortunately I learnt that it’s best to get it all sorted if I want a proper life one day (mortage etc), a lesson I’m actually glad I learnt when I was younger.
    Haha, glad you agree with the manners and decluttering, I used to moan about tidying when i was younger, but she was right, it makes so much sense now :)
    Thanks for the comment x x x

  • Susan Lynn Brown

    Thanks Hannah for the positive and wise comments, you turned out such a beautiful, humorous and loving person because you took notice of me your Mum and you grew up in a close knit family!
    As a child and teenager many moons ago I didn’t think my Mum was always right, but she was and I also only realised when I became a young women and more so when I had my own children!
    Thank you for being you xxxx

  • Kirsty

    I love this post! Happy Birthday to your Mum… My mum pretty much taught me all of these things too! Good old mums eh! xxx

    Kirsty – http://effortlesslyexcessive.blogspot.fi/

  • Danielle Vedmore

    Loving the pics! Am a firm believer in the saying – Mums always right! (most of the time!) I guess the thing my mum has taught me is that everything happens for a reason – you may not see at the time but you will xoxo

  • Awwww Thanks Mum :) I guess we just understand more as we get older and appreciate a Mums advice.
    Thanks for being you and HAPPY BIRTHDAY
    X x X x X

  • That’s a great way of thinking, I need to remember to think that, everything happens for a reason (eventually).
    Thanks for the comment :)
    X x X

  • I know, what would we do without them eh? Bless our lovely Mums
    X x X

  • From My colleague Erica…. “Oh my god, your mum looks exactly the same, but with different hair!”

    Love this post!

  • Hahaha! I thought EXACTLY the same. I kept flicking between this page and her twitter page and thinking – they look exactly the same! xxx

  • I love this post it’s really quirky and fun and straight to the point. Hope your mum had an amazing birthday by the way. I completely agree that decluttering can really help to be more proactive! I feel like I get more done when my surroundings are clear it helps my head to be clear and concentrate. I also agree that manners cost nothing but mean everything. I always love getting complimented for being polite and I’m sure it’d make my Mum proud to know that she raised me well. Please and thankyou’s are easy enough to say and can change someones judgement on you easily!x

  • Hannah Webster

    Your mum sounds fab! She really taught you some good things. I agree so much about the mess thing, even as a student it never bothered me at all but now I can really see how much of a difference it makes to your whole outlook and even find myself cleaning up at my boyfriends whenever he isn’t looking because the mess bothers me so much! Childhood me would be seriously appalled! Haha.
    I hope she had a lovely birthday :)

  • Awwww Thank you. Glad you liked it.
    I feel that way too, if I have clean surroundings I get things done.
    And as for Manners, they’re free and they last you a lifetime, so why would we not use them? It’s nice to be polite :)
    Thanks so much for your comment lovely x x x

  • Hahaha! Childhood me would be sulking if she knew I tidied at all, let alone three or four times a week! Awwww my Mum is Fab, a woman of wise words, Thank you.
    (And yup, I clean up after my bf too, but don’t always want him to know, haha, I don’t want him thinking I’m turning into an old lady) x x x