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Inspired by the Unexpected

August 15, 2014

Before you see the image and think I’ve written an I Heart Miley post, I haven’t … well okay, so I sort of have … but I’ll get to her in a bit. This post is actually about change and becoming what you want to be. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about life, dreams, happiness, y’know all the usual PMA stuff (that’s Positive Mental Attitude, not the other thing, which I used to always get it confused with).

It’s been six months since I returned from my travels, and I have spent those six months trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. Despite everyone assuming that travelling is all about ‘soul-searching’, I was way too busy being swept up in incredible cultures, tasting magical foods, and drinking too many beer Laos to sit around thinking ‘So – Who am I?’ Not that travelling didn’t change me, I’m definitely a better and stronger person for it. But it’s only returning home and being away from all the backpacking madness that I paused to think ‘What do I want to be?’

There is the obvious route that I think my family hoped I would take; newly engaged, the plan was to have a beautiful wedding, and I think everyone assumed it would be followed by the pitter patter of tiny feet, and hopefully the purchase of my own house. Although this is sort of what is expected of me, to settle down and have kids, I personally don’t feel ready for that yet. Don’t get me wrong I definitely want children, but I feel like being selfish for a few more years. After an amazingly fun-filled year being 27, I feel now at 28 I’m only just beginning to discover who I am and what I really want. Oddly, the person who encouraged me to feel this way, who inspired me, is a person I never in a million years expected to relate to …. Yes, little Miss Naughty – Miley Cyrus.

A girl I once saw as nothing but an annoying teen-bopper, I now have a new found respect for. Having actually enjoyed a few of Mileys songs off her latest album Bangerz, I found myself watching her ‘Movement’ doc one boring Sunday afternoon. I was surprised at what I saw. Whilst people may judge Miley as an over-sexual and fame hungry celeb (I certainly did after that VMA performance), regardless of how you view her, Miley is doing what so many of us fail to do: exactly what she wants!

Miley had a public image she was expected to keep, and a style she was supposed to run with. But realising that this was not what she wanted, she completely broke away from it. Miley decided to be who she wanted to be. She talks in the documentary about being the same person she’s always been, having the same heart, but just doing things her own way now, achieving goals she has set herself and being unafraid to show the world who she really is.

Watching this documentary, I realised that the old Miley Cyrus was just another product of Disney. She was a puppet; told how to dress, how to act, told what to sing and what to say. Now I see just how creative Miley is, and it would have been such a shame had she not made this change, or ‘Movement’ as she calls it. She works hard, and goes above and beyond when it comes to being creative and pushing the boundaries. It’s safe to say she has definitely made her mark on the world and I don’t doubt she has plenty more to come. I literally feel in awe of her and her confidence.

Okay, so I’m rambling on a bit, and I know people will actually laugh when they read this, but I honestly think we could all take a leaf out of Miley’s Cyrus’s book. I’m not saying we should all bleach our hair and go around twerking, I’m talking about her confidence and her drive. So many of us, myself included, go along with our day to day life, doing things we don’t enjoy because we are too afraid of change, or scared of failing, or we care too much of what others would think. But what if we are holding back? What if we could actually be that person we really want to be?

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“If you can’t express yourself, your not very free” – Miley Cyrus

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I’m always thinking about things I want to do, even just little things such as vlogging, starting yoga, getting a tattoo or even just dressing in a certain style, but more often than not these thoughts are pushed to the back of mind by these niggling paranoid feelings that tell me ‘No, goodness, you can’t do that!’ But why not? Why should I care what others think? I seem to worry about this so much, it’s an issue I have been dealing with for years, and I am trying to tell myself that if I really believe in something and I really want to do it, then I should do it regardless of what others think. So I’ve decided to start being the person I want to be. I’m planning my own Movement!

As well as doing all the little things I want to bravely do, there are bigger challenges I am ready to take on. Since moving back to England, and adjusting to normality, I guess you could say I have been on a bit of a journey of self-discovery; and there are two things I have discovered that I really want to do with my life. The first? Write.

Last month, I was sat in work daydreaming at my desk, thinking about how I would love to be a full-time writer; I’ve always loved writing, but I questioned whether I even had any talent or the necessary skills. Five minutes later I found out I was nominated for a Cosmopolitan Blog Award (vote here). It was the sign and the push I needed. I’m not saying I’m going to quit my job and become a penniless poet, I’m very fortunate to be in the job I’m in and I enjoy working in TV, but ultimately, I want to write. Hence putting my all into this little blog, and also working on my book on the side too. And I’m not saying I’m some amazingly-fantastic writer and it’s going to be easy, hardly, I have no doubt it’s going to be difficult. But it’s what I want to do, write, write, write, write, write.

The second thing? Travel.

Backpacking for a year didn’t get the travel bug out my system, in fact the opposite, it wet my appetite. I’m practically drooling when I looking at pictures of exotic faraway lands. We live on this huge planet, that holds so much, I can’t bear the thought of just sitting in one place forever and ever. Any opportunity I have to travel, even if it’s just popping on a bus to a town nearby that I’ve never heard of, I’m going to do it. I want to see as much of this world as I can, and if the past six months (and Miley Cyrus) have taught me anything, it is to be who you want to be and do what you want to do. I don’t want to fall into the trap of feeling tied down to a life that is merely practical. As Jim Carrey said earlier this year ….

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“You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.” – Jim Carrey

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This was a bit of a random and somewhat ranty blog post, but I just felt like I had to get it all off my chest, and as I love blogging, what better way to get it off my chest than to type it out. Although I’ve rambled on a bit, the point I’m trying to make is that if you really want to do something, do it. Don’t take the easy way out. It’s never too late to make big changes in your life, try not to care about what others think (advice I need to take myself) and just do what makes you happy. I hope this post inspires you, at least one of you, to be who you really want to be!

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